Step 01: Choose an issue you'd like to work through.
  Name the problem you want to solve.
  For example:
• How should I deal with a colleague with whom I have a disagreement? 
• How should I deal with my son's request to go to a party on a weeknight?
   
  Step 02: Write out the facts in the story.
  What do you know for sure about the situation?  You should be able to defend this with some sort of story or evidence
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What information is missing —  that you CAN find out? 
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  What would you like to know, but simply won't be able to find out?
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  Step 03: Without judging yourself, take a moment to reflect on how you are feeling about the situation.
   Check the boxes that apply. (Remember, we're talking feelings, not thoughts!)
 
joy
fear
 
satisfaction
anger
 
anxiety
frustration
 
confusion
peace
 
uncertainty
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sadness  
  Write other words that describe your feelings:
         
 
  Before going on to step 4, think about what your feelings may be telling you about what should matter in making this decision.
  Step 04: Brainstorm all of the things that matter to you and others in this situation.
   
  What matters? What's at stake?
  If you can, try to get to the deeper value at stake by probing yourself with the question, "why is this important to me?"
Rate / prioritize Fill in the blank with "It is important that…"
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  Step 05: Brainstorm possible options for dealing with your situation. 
  List the different ways you might solve this problem or answer the key question.
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  Step 06: Evaluate your options with what should matter  
Use the drop down menu to evaluate the "possible solution" with your values.
  OPTIONS
 
  Total score:
  Step 07: Make a decision and carry it out!
  Based on your analysis, the following option gets the highest score: 
 
  Step back and consider:
  1. Are you satisfied with the analysis? (do you feel satisfied, is something missing? Are you feeling comfortable)
 
 
  2. Can you combine options to live up to what matters? 
  3. Make a decision accordingly
  List the steps you'll need to take to carry out the decision.
  Online Exericise Report  
  The issue.  
  The Facts.  
     
  What do you know for sure about the situation:  
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The missing info that can be found out: 
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The missing info that cannot be found out: 
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  What's important:  
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  Possible solutions:  
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  Based on your thinking, the option you have decided on is:  
  Steps to carry out the decision:  
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