Step 01: Choose an issue you'd like to work through.
Name the problem do you want to solve. 
  For example:
• How should I deal with a colleague with whom I have a disagreement?
• How should I deal with my son's request to go to a party on a weeknight?
 
               
  Step 02: Write out the facts in the story.
               
What do you know for sure about the situation?  You should be able to defend this with some sort of story or evidence
 
               
What information is missing —  that you CAN find out? 
 
               
What would you like to know, but simply won't be able to find out?
 
  Step 03: Brainstorm all of the things that matter to you and others in this situation.
  What matters? What's at stake?
If you can, try to get to the deeper value at stake by probing yourself with the question, "why is this important to me?"
In case it helps, here is a list of things you can draw from about things that matter often and for many people.
               
  Fill in the blank with "It is important that…"
    It is important that…
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  ↓ Rate the things that matter to you and others in this situation:
 
                 
  Step 04: Without judging yourself, take a moment to reflect on how you are feeling about the situation.
   Check the boxes that apply. (Remember, we're talking feelings, not thoughts!)  
 
joy
confusion
fear
peace
 
satisfaction
uncertainty
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guilt
 
anxiety
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frustration    
                 
  Write other words that describe your feelings.   
 
                 
  Step 05: Brainstorm possible options for dealing with your situation. 
  List the different ways you might solve this problem or answer the key question.
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  Step 06: Evaluate your options with what should matter:
               
     
     
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  Step 07: Make a decision and carry it out!
  Based on your analysis, the following option gets the highest score: 
 
               
  Note: if multiple options has the same highest/lowest score, only the first one will be displayed here. 
               
  Are you satisfied with the analysis? (do you feel satisfied, is something missing? Are you feeling comfortable)
 
               
 
               
Step back and consider:
    1. Which option lives up to most important?
2. Can you combine options to live up to what matters?
3. Make a decision accordingly
 
  List the steps you'll need to take to carry out the decision
 
                 
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  What do you know for sure about the situation
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
 
                 
 
  The missing info that can be found out: 
 
                 
  The missing info that cannot be found out: 
 
                 
  Brainstorming: what's important and possible solutions
                 
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  Based on your thinking, the option you have decided on is:
         
 
                 
               
  Steps to carry out the decision: